In lived experience, union is more easily defined by what it is not. We can more easily see the state of Christ from the reference point of when we feel and experience the state of separation – duality from our self, others and the divine nature. When we forget our deepest truth. When we forget the deepest truth of another. When we go to sleep to the state of awakeness in Christ. When we act out from this forgetfulness and separation we can do a great deal of damage to ourselves and to others.
So, do you know where your edge(s) of transformation are? Are you full of your self or are you in the process of being transformed from self to Essence? Is your me-dynamic decreasing or increasing? Is your nephesh self awakening to the Life from above and not just caught in the pleasures and pain of life here below?